People
often tell me that they really want to mediate but they’re too busy - there’s
just not enough time. We all have a lot of things going on like jobs, school,
families, and other responsibilities, so I frequently hear from clients and
students that when they’re done with their day the last thing they want to do
is to sit on a cushion with their legs crossed for thirty minutes.
The Buddha
dealt quite a bit with lay people who led regular lives. He came into contact
with people who didn’t have the luxury of being able to practice formally for several
hours each day because they had to work in order to survive and they also had
to deal with familial responsibilities. Just like today, people back then had
personal and professional pressures to contend with and little to no down time.
So this
notion that there’s something so uniquely challenging about our modern day
situation when it comes to meditation practice is hogwash.
Many people
really want to meditate and realize how important it is but they just can’t
fathom a way in which such a practice could be integrated into their everyday lives.
I was
talking with my teacher today about this topic and he reminded me of what his
teacher Zen Master Seung Sahn used to say. Whenever he was asked what Zen
practice was, Seung Sahn would reply,
“Correct Zen practice is: how do you keep
your mind moment after moment after moment?”
He didn’t
talk about long, formal meditation sessions or mind-numbing postural techniques—he
simply emphasized the importance of bringing practice into our everyday lives
and not treating it like some special, isolated thing that could only be practiced
only under a very specific and limited set of circumstances.
So the good
news is: you don’t have to be a card-carrying monk or a smiling, mala-bead
wearing, prostrating, full lotus sitting, palms-together self-identified Buddhist
in order to practice effectively every day.
Now don’t
get me wrong—sitting and walking meditation are fundamental, wonderful forms of
practice, and very, very useful. But if you find that you just aren’t taking
the time to sit on a cushion or chair for just five, ten, or fifteen minutes a
day, there there are other ways to work a meditation practice into your everyday
life, even if you’re the busiest person in the world.
Here are seven
ways of meditating that even the busiest among us can fit into their day:
1. Smartphone Practice – Set your phone alarm to go off at
several different times throughout the day. When you hear the tone, take a
moment to pause and check in and see how you are doing, even if it’s just for a
few seconds. Notice if you’re stuck in any thought loops or harboring any negative
emotional or mind states. Don’t try to force anything away or muster up any
kind of special feeling, just notice how you are doing in that moment and then
continue on with your day.
2. The Lay-Away Method – Just as it’s less painful to make
a big purchase in small incremental payments over time, you can approach your
daily meditation practice in much the same way. Just commit yourself to several
periods of mini-practice sessions spread throughout the day. For example:
tomorrow you can plan to be still and follow your breath for just sixty seconds
at five or ten different periods. Use a reminder alert on your phone if you
must or just schedule these one-minute sessions in your calendar the way you
would a business or social engagement. When it comes to the length or frequency
of each practice session you can adjust it all as needed in a way that makes it
more doable for you.
3. Post-it Practice – Stick some small post-it notes in
various places around your home and office that can serve as visual reminders
to pay attention to what your mind is doing whenever you catch sight of them.
Place them on mirrors, computer monitors, windows, closet doors--wherever you
might come across them during your daily routine. You can also do this using a
rubber band on your wrist, small colored stickers, or anything that can be
visually prominent enough to remind you to notice what your mind is doing for
at least a few seconds or more.
4. Pissing Practice – Once my teacher witnessed a
desperate student approach Seung Sahn with a serious dilemma:
“According
to the others at this Zen center, I am not practicing enough but I don’t have
enough time each day to meditate for long periods…so what should I do?”
His answer
really surprised her (and I'm summarizing):
“You shit,
right? You pee? During that time, make that your practice!”
Everyone
has to pee. Even the busiest person in the world has to urinate at least once a
day. So why not use those precious few seconds to return to the moment and fully
experience the sensations attached to the activity of peeing? We mustn’t waste
anything--not even our waste.
5. Street-Walker Meditation—Whenever you are walking and
wherever you happen to be, just walk. Don’t try to figure out your life or
solve the world’s problems in your brain as you’re moving about—instead just
pay attention to the feeling of the ground under each foot as it touches the
earth below. Whether you are rushing down subway stairs, walking in the mall, running
on the beach or strolling down the street, take at least a minute or more to completely
immerse yourself in the simple activity of walking. Make an art out of moving
yourself from your desk to the bathroom or from your parked car to the
supermarket entrance. Notice what you are feeling and what kinds of thoughts arise
as you do so without adding anything extra.
6. Eating Meditation – Whether you’re grabbling a quick
cup of coffee at Starbucks or having an elaborately prepared gourmet meal, allow
yourself some time to simply experience the act of consuming without piling
anything on top of it like reading or allowing your thinking mind to take over.
All too often we find ourselves eating or drinking something without even
knowing what it tasted like when we’re done because we were so distracted by some
inner chatter or outer multitasking. Practice is about fully engaging with
whatever activity we happen to be involved with at any given time and nothing
more. Whatever you are doing is enough.
7. Keyboard Practice – Cellular phones, ATM machines,
and computer keyboards can be utilized like modern-day mala beads. When you’re
texting or typing at your computer for example, pay close attention to the sensation
of your fingertips as they tap against the keys on your phone or your keyboard.
What’s most
important is to develop a way of practicing consistently that makes sense for
who you are and the kind of life you lead. Be creative with this and come up
with ways of meditating that are manageable, and this will inspire you to stick with it. Good
old-fashioned seated meditation is still one of the best methods for learning
how to get acquainted with your mind and to understand your true nature, but it’s
not the only way.
Good
practice is not just about sitting for long periods of time or going away on
extended retreats at exotic meditation halls or reading a densely written Dharma
book that makes you want to yawn. It’s simply about being fully aware of what
your mind is doing at any given moment, and this is something you can do at any
given moment.

I absolutely LOVE this post. These are the little types of things I try to do each day. As the busy mom of 4 kids, I seldom can devote even 10 minutes of quiet time, but by practicing in little 'moments' throughout the day, I can calm my mind, breathe and clear my head. Thanks for all the GREAT ideas :)
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nancy
I'm so glad to hear this and that you are already practicing in this way! Good job!
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ReplyDeleteExcellent post with some great ideas. I'm sure it will help many people.
ReplyDeleteWhat wonderful reminders and suggestions. Thank you.
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